Not including a picture of myself was a conscious decision. While publishing a picture of myself would allow a greater chance of being “humanized” by the general public, I wanted my ideas to stand on their own merits. I enjoyed the freedom of writing my first book without the specter of social judgment on a personal level looming over my shoulder. In many ways, the writing process is very personal and very intimate for me. Throughout my writing, I felt like I was the client in a counseling session. And for the client in a therapeutic relationship to feel comfortable to discuss and explore personal topics, a degree of confidentiality is required.
I chose the pseudonym “Adoré” because to adore something means to love it deeply with certain kind of understanding rooted in a certain kind of reverence. In our modern day and age, I believe that there is a growing imbalance between reason and passion in relationships between men and women. No longer do men and women adore one another. Instead each sees the other as a “utility” or as a “means to an end.” The philosopher Immanuel Kant said that rational human beings should be treated as an end in themselves and not as a means to something else. The relationship between man and woman, however, has become increasingly “transactional” and “shallow” now more than ever. Pleasures of the flesh have become their new god; man worships woman, woman worships man, or each worships themselves — all chaos begins with breaking the first commandment.
The discord between Adam and Eve in Eden is still with us today. We inherited their strengths and weaknesses and every feeling in every relationship since their time is something that they experienced first — not exactly, but generally. By using our imagination and our own feelings and thoughts as a “mode of access” in relationships to seek a greater understanding, we might be able to uncover the nuances between them, within ourselves, and between ourselves and our fellow human beings.